How much should you tell the kids when Mum or Dad had an affair?

Parents frequently ask what is and is not appropriate to tell their children. My view is that “less is more”. The less you tell them, the more they are prevented from undo stress. It is best not to give them the adult details about the reasons for the divorce. This potentially places children in an untenable position of being a parent’s peer or confidante and might make them feel as if they need to side with one parent against the other parent. It is best to give them an age appropriate, general explanation, which can then be expanded upon over time.

Children MUST know they have the love and security from BOTH parents. If you are a parent in this situation, do not talk poorly about the child's other parent to them directly OR within earshot of the child.

YOU ARE damaging your child. Please realize that your child wants a happy and positive family environment. Your child is NOT your friend. Let children be children, and have as few concerns as possible.

Like always , my views are harsh, but I see too many children and adults having broken relationships because of this issue. Nobody benefits.
 
Savannah Ellis
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