Divorce a Cheating Wife and Move On?

Question: 

"I busted my ass working for my wife the last 14 years. Should I just divorce her and move on?"

 

Answer:

When it comes to divorce, cheating wife issues are far too often the cause. Many husbands file for divorce as soon as they find out that their wives have cheated on them, even if the situation occurred years ago. 

The pain of infidelity is felt no matter how many years ago it occurred. Men can be proud, and being cheated on hurts their pride, possibly to a degree that renders the marriage unsavable. Traditionally, men are raised to provide for their family, and to protect their wife and family from harm. A man is proud of his wife and defends her honor. So the emotions are different for a man coping with betrayal.

Making the decision to divorce a cheating wife is never easy to do, but it may be the best thing to do for your and your family’s emotional well-being - short term that is! Long term is a different story. Will you feel regret that you made the decision to bust up your family too soon? Could you have moved past this issue? What is your family history with problem solving and forgiveness? What is yours?

DO NOT make a decision to divorce when you are in an emotional state. If you think you are not in an emotional state, you are kidding yourself! Of course you are! And you should be. 

Just know that you DID NOT DESERVE TO BE CHEATED ON.

What Happens When You Decide to Divorce a Cheating Wife?

The front page of our Las Vegas Infidelity Coaching Clinic has the divorce statistics by state, the cost of divorce in that state, and if the state is an "at fault" state - go to www.infidelitycoach.net

When a husband files for divorce, a cheating wife named in the paperwork may not admit to her infidelity. She may even disagree with the dissolution of the marriage, resulting in a contested divorce. The husband may attempt to deal with this situation on his own or may turn to a local divorce attorney for contested divorce help. Legal representation is recommended because it usually reduces the stress and frustration of the divorce process. Having a divorce advocate on your side can also help deliver results faster so that you do not have to drag on the painful process any longer than is necessary.

It is not easy to prove infidelity in a divorce case. The husband must obtain proof that his wife cheated during the marriage and this may require searching email, Internet, and telephone records. An attorney will recommend the type of evidence admissible in court and the way it should be gathered. Husbands must be careful not to overstep the law when gathering this proof. And in most cases, a divorce attorney will recommend that the husband of a cheating wife put the infidelity in the past and recommend divorcing on no-fault grounds, as proving the infidelity of your spouse is no easy task and only helps decide issues like child custody and division of property in rare instances.

The first 90 days are ALWAYS the hardest. You are running on pure emotion. Even if you want to save your family, you can't help to think "how can I trust her with my heart again."

All I ask is that if the wife has not separated from the "lover" either emotionally or physically, DO NOT have any form of reconciliation as it will be futile. The best decision in this circumstance is to remove away from each other so there is less risk of violence. The last thing you need is to attack either her or the "lover" and you will be the one both betrayed and in jail.

We are here if you need advice,

Savannah

Founder & Coach
The Infidelity Recovery Institute