How could this possibly be true? NINTY-FIVE PERCENT of the Italian male population cheats? I was astounded. The Italian guys sharing this statistic were also astounded… astounded that I actually thought the rate was not that high in the U.S. “No, it’s the same everywhere,” they would say, “You just don't know about it.”
In many ways, Italian men are in NO WAYS like men from the U.S or my home town, Sydney Australia. For instance, even with a casual hook up Italian men will treat the women like they are seriously dating. They will “make love” to them, spouting lines and making moves that rival the best movie scenes ever filmed. They will ask them to sleep over, to snuggle all night, to walk the dog with them in the morning, and they’ll spend the entire next day with them. When you hair is ragged and your makeup is a memory of what it was the night before an Italian man will make you feel like you are the most beautiful woman in the world. But what you have to remember is they will do the exact same thing with the next random girl they hook up with the very next night. Italian men believe in “taking care” of their women; even the hookups or the ones on the side.
So when the question of "why?" was asked to Italian men:
• It’s just what we do. It’s expected of Italian men.
• It keeps us interested in sex with our own partners.
• It keeps things fresh because you’re not having the same old sex all the time. (Same as before just said a little differently)
• As long as we are treating our wives and families properly (and they dont know about it) where’s the harm?
• If we had kids I would stop cheating for a while until they grew up.
• My wife and I are only staying together for the children. Don’t I deserve to have some happiness in my life?
The thing is I believe these guys actually believe this stuff. And maybe it’s because of the different culture here, but these reasons are starting to make sense to me too.
So where do these men have these affairs?
According to the research, three fifths of affairs start in the office, with most trysts taking place between 2pm and 3pm as people sneak off during their lunch breaks, reports the Telegraph.
In around half of cases, cheating partners are found out through indiscreet mobile phone text messages, emails betray one in five and a further one in 10 are given away by anonymous letters, according to the survey by the Italian Association for Family Lawyers.
Seven in 10 affairs are one-off flings, with the rest more long-term relationships.
Gleeden.com, which describes itself as "the premier international dating website for married people," has 90,000 Italians signed up to it.
Infidelity is most prevalent in Milan, with Rome a close second.
Until 1981, Italian law recognized the principle of honor killings, with courts entitled to hand out more lenient sentences to men convicted of murdering their cheating wives.
Nowadays, around half of cases of infidelity are tolerated by long-suffering partners, the survey found.
According to the research, three fifths of affairs start in the office, with most trysts taking place between 2pm and 3pm as people sneak off during their lunch breaks, reports the Telegraph.
In around half of cases, cheating partners are found out through indiscreet mobile phone text messages, emails betray one in five and a further one in 10 are given away by anonymous letters, according to the survey by the Italian Association for Family Lawyers.
Seven in 10 affairs are one-off flings, with the rest more long-term relationships.
Gleeden.com, which describes itself as "the premier international dating website for married people," has 90,000 Italians signed up to it.
Infidelity is most prevalent in Milan, with Rome a close second.
Until 1981, Italian law recognized the principle of honor killings, with courts entitled to hand out more lenient sentences to men convicted of murdering their cheating wives.
Nowadays, around half of cases of infidelity are tolerated by long-suffering partners, the survey found.
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