Being Infidelity recovery Coach I hear a lot of interesting stories. Some of my coaches doing their
Infidelity Recovery Certification training question if people are truly honest when in the coach's office?
Do they really tell the truth about their sex lives?
The answer is simple. If a person feels like they are going to be judged for what they did then they will lie.
But if you have an environment where no matter what is said, there's no judgement and empathic listening,
then honesty will be less of a problem.
With that being said I will share with you what guys share with me about their porn use, versus what they may
share with you at home.
Last week I did a survey to 50 of my former male clients both here in (Las Vegas) and in Sydney, Australia.
Survey questions
1. Have you or do you attend Rub n Tug parlors - THIS LINK will tell you all about them
2. Is that sociably acceptable amongst men in your community
3. Same question on brothels
4. What percentage of your friends would you say are unfaithful to their wives?
5. What percentage of the above group would you say are happy in their relationship?
Here are the answers :
1. 94% Have been to a Rub & Tug Parlor
"Yes I been to them not for a long time and not very often" - SP Bookie, Sydney
2. 100% Said it is acceptable amongst men in their community to attend a Rug & Tug if they want too.
"Yes I think it's socially accepted amongst men, probably a little less socially accepted
by private school eastern suburbs types" - Stock Broker, Sydney
3. 75% said they had been to a brothel
"I've been a few times in my life , but it's something I've never been into" - CPA, Las Vegas
4. NO percentage - many were not sure of what unfaithful meant
"hard to say"
5. 50% was the perception on how happy men are in their relationships
"i don't really know 50/50 probably" - Doctor, Las Vegas
My message to women is stop being Judgmental and critical on watch your man says when he talks about
his sexual desires. Accept them for what they are and praise honesty and open communication in your relationship.
If you find offense to his sexual desires and interests then ask yourself what do you fear by him having these
thoughts? Are you feeling inadequate yourself? Do you feel like you have to live up to this fantasy?
Do you feel self-conscious about some of his sexual preferences versus how you look?
We are all getting older and there is always someone that is richer, better looking, or has achieved some
other remarkable feat that you have not. What everybody else doesn't have is the relationship that you two do have.
If you focus on what you have and show that man of yours love, respect, and appreciation you will not lose that man.
Here's to your relationship success,
Savannah
xoxo
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